We just celebrated our first anniversary! We’ve grown a lot this year and, before I get too sappy, here’s a short list of what our first year as husband and wife has held:
Moving to VA from TN
Joseph starting a new job
Hosting a weekly game night (now around 15-20 people each week)
Joining a Community Group and getting involved in our new church - Remnant
Going on Rebecca’s first backpacking trip
Lots of camping, hiking, kayaking, etc.
Rebecca starting a new job (first part-time, then full-time)
Buying a house (and beginning to renovate it)
To celebrate our first year of marriage, we spent the weekend at the cabin where we first started to fall for each other - Charit Creek Lodge in Big South Fork. Originally, this was meant to be a surprise (Joseph had been planning this trip since before our wedding because he’s romantic like that), but it accidentally slipped a couple of months ago. I’m not great with surprises, so that was probably for the best considering we got an unwanted surprise - a fun case of tonsillitis the day before our trip! Long story short, God provided a way for me to have antibiotics and gave me a quick recovery so we were still able to enjoy hiking and being outside.
We hiked in, relaxed, read The Princess Bride to each other, and had a nice hot meal prepared by the lodge. The next day, we hiked out to the river and back (around 9 miles, but very flat), and saw a few snakes, which is always a highlight for Joseph. All of the meals were delicious and the weather was (mostly) beautiful. Our second night we actually stayed in a suspended tent called a Tentsile Stingray, just to try it out. While it is an interesting concept, we’ve agreed we won’t be investing in one in the future. Altogether, it was a restful getaway, and one we really needed given the insanity of our new house at the moment (our floors were being refinished while we were gone).
In many ways, it is strange to think that we are already a year removed from our wedding day. It does not feel like it was that long ago. Conversely, being married has felt so natural that it is odd to think we haven’t always been together. For our friends here in Richmond, they have really only known us as the Obenschains. Writing my new last name isn’t exactly easy yet, but writing my maiden name no longer feels natural either.
At the outset, I was prepared for our first year to be really difficult. To a certain extent, it has been, but not for the reasons I expected. I thought we’d end up having heated arguments and that we’d discover lots of things we didn’t see eye to eye on. For some reason, that seemed to be the norm. Thankfully, that hasn’t really happened. The things that have been difficult would have been that way regardless of being married or single - things like starting life in a new place, figuring out a new job, dealing with seasonal blues, etc.. Joseph has made these times easier for me, not harder, and I think that’s how it is supposed to be.
That isn’t to say we always see eye to eye and communicate perfectly and sacrifice for each other at every opportunity. We’re very much still learning (especially me, with my propensity toward self-centeredness), but we can already see some awesome ways God has used us to mold one another. And now, by His grace, we look forward to the next year of adventures!